Conceptually, I support equality for women. It's in college when I opened my eyes to how deep-rooted sexism is, as well as other forms of oppression. It's when I became a radical, structural feminist.
However.
I'm not that comfortable wearing a t-shirt that says "feminist." Or other variations like "the sisterhood" or "love your tribe" or "the force is female." No thanks.
The reason such tees make me uncomfortable is because I'm uncomfortable with the notion that there is some sort of genuine sisterhood among all women. Some of the most egregious acts of cruelty I've experienced have been by women. Truth is, women DON'T help women. Women shame. Women gossip. Women sabotage. Women envy. Women take down. So do men. Not all, but many. That's because women and men are human. And many humans (not all) don't help humans.
I'm also uncomfortable with "the sisterhood" because as Roxanne Gay points out, race remains a big problem within some feminist circles.
And then there are those very special women who go out of their way to support misogyny, white nationalism and ickiness in general to pursue relevance and celebrity ... like Kellyanne, Sarah, Dana, Ann, Tomi ... and quite frankly the 53% of educated white women who helped put disgraceful Trump in office. And in the deep reaches of my radical feminist heart, I say that there are men who are more my sisters than these women.
The force isn't female.
The force is.
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